Body Safety 101

A caregiver's guide to empowering your child and safe body boundaries

Safe Caregivers & Safe Situations

You can take steps to surround children with safe caregivers in safe environments.

Educating & 
Empowering Your Child

Talking to your child about their bodies and personal boundaries is key to keeping them safe. 

Warning Signs & Responding to Disclosure

While not always present there are a few common warning signs to take note of.

Safe Caregivers & Safe Situations

Most victims of sexual abuse were abused by someone they knew or in a place they were familiar with. You can take steps to surround children with safe caregivers in safe environments.

♦ Abusers often become friendly with potential victims and their families, earning trust and gaining time alone with children. Observe your child with others, and listen to your gut. If you feel uncomfortable with the way an adult is interacting with your child, step in.
♦ Ask your babysitter for background checks, including criminal and child abuse/neglect checks.
♦ Check that all of your child’s programs require background checks, personal interviews, and professional recommendations for all adults—including volunteers—who work with children.
​♦ Monitor children’s Internet and smartphone use. Offenders have been known to use the Internet to lure children into physical contact.

Educate & Empower Your Child

Talking to your child about their bodies, body safety, and personal boundaries is key in keeping them safe.
​Child safety is an adult responsibility.

♦ Use the correct names for body parts, including their genitals, as they are learning to identify them (starting as early as possible).
♦ Make sure your child knows the difference between “okay” and “not okay” touches. No one should ask to see or touch the private parts of their body, except a medical provider or a caregiver who is helping them clean or use the restroom. No one should show them pictures of private parts. Teach them if those things occur, tell a trusted adult. Teach children that once they can bathe and use the restroom on their own, they should not accept such help from adults and older children.
♦ Teach children that it’s okay for them to say “no” if they don’t want to hug or kiss someone, including family, and always respect their decision.
​♦ Educate children about the difference between good secrets and bad secrets. A surprise party is a good secret because it isn’t kept for long. A secret that they are told to keep forever is not okay

Possible Warning Signs

While not always present, warning signs may include:

​Strong efforts to avoid, or to be with, a specific person without an obvious reason 


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Displaying knowledge or interest in sexual acts that are inappropriate to his or her age


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​Pain when toileting, trouble walking or sitting, or pain, itching, bleeding, or bruises in or around the genitals


​Difficulty concentrating or staying on task, irritability, lacking motivation, and showing little or no emotion

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​Sudden changes in behavior, such as becoming more withdrawn, or being more aggressive toward family friends, pets, or toys

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​​Unexplained episodes of anger, rage, or moodiness




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Sleep disturbances, such as nightmares or bedwetting

​The last four warning signs can be signs of stress which may or may not be related to sexual abuse. If your child has any physical symptoms such as pain, itching, bleeding or bruising, seek medical care right away. Remember, children may not react as adults might expect. Often there are no warning signs. If you would like to consult with an expert our Child-Advocate Counselors can be reached 24-7-365 by calling 406-586-3333. 

Responding if a Child Tells You About Abuse

​If a child discloses abuse, how you respond could be as important as anything else that will follow. It is critical for you to stay calm, listen carefully, and be a source of safety and support. Allow the child to share at his or her own pace, using his or her own language. Do not press the child for details or make remarks that question the child’s experience, just let the story unfold. Then report the incident to Child Protective Services or law enforcement. Often times you will be connected with a Child-Advocate Counselor who will help you navigate this process. Consult with your child’s doctor immediately if you find out about sexual abuse or assault to determine if your child should be seen at an emergency department or at the Child Advocacy Center.

Call the Help Center at 211 to find your local Child Protective Service's Agency.
Always call 911 if a child is in imminent danger and needs immediate protection.
This material was adapted from the Face It® Movement started in the state of Kentucky. ​Visit faceitabuse.org to learn more about the Face It® movement and become the face that ends child abuse & neglect.